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Do You Lend Out Your Books?


A good friend of mine (Hi Wesley!) and I were talking recently about our love of books. He can always be found with a book, or two, under his arm and a new book recommendation on his heels. As I looked over one of his most recent objects of affection, I noticed a certain possessiveness in his eyes lol 

Dramatized version of what took place lol 
Me: What's up Wesley?

Him: Nothing. Just looking.

Me: *book in hand* This looks like a good read. 
Let me know when you're done so I can borrow it.

Him: Let you what!?!


HAHA! Just kidding....what really happened...

Him: Ummm...No, but you should definitely get a copy.
(and politely took it back lol) 

The thing is...I completely understood his sentiments! I love recommending good books to friends! I want them to experience the greatness of a good read but the books that I love... the ones that have changed me irrevocably...the ones that gave me all the feels... they become a part of me. Don't judge me lol I can't be the only one. 

And it is one of the most disappointing feelings to lend a book to a friend only for it to: 

a. Get "lost" under a stack of mail, in between books on a shelf or 
in some kid's toy chest

b. To have it returned in a remixed condition 
of how it was when you lent it out. 

This was just too funny not to post. LOL!

This is not to say that I don't allow friends to borrow books. I do! Especially friends/family who I know are genuinely interested in reading it and will take care of it. However, I go through a series of thoughts before I actually part ways with my beloved page turner.


Courtesy of Epic Reads

A good book should be enjoyed by everyone and I'm all about spreading the wealth! But this made me wonder. Is this a common struggle for other book lovers? Or am I just being overly protective of my paperback friends? It's ok. I'm a big girl lol 


Do you lend out your books? 
Why or why not? Do you have a system? Or do
you lend it with no expectations?



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32 comments

  1. Yes! XD I completely agree with this post. I love sharing and talking about my favorite books, but when it comes to letting others borrow them, it's not without reservations first.

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  2. I don't tend to lend my books out. I never have. On the occasion that I did, I had that person sign a paper so and I kept hounding them about it. Yep, I am that person LOL. And definitely return the book to me the way you received and definitely not in worse condition b/c that will mean you'd NEVER EVER EVER be allowed to borrow one of my books again...on the occasion that I actually let you in the first place.

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  3. This made me laugh! I read everything on my kindle so I don't have to worry about lending out my books except in e-format. I can understand anyone's reluctance, though!!

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  4. I'm selective of who I lend books and will often just gift it. Some don't get to borrow anything. :) My mom used to lend out my books (okay, only twice) but I never got them back. She was never allowed to do that again. :D

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    1. Lol! Dang, had to put mom on restriction haha

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  5. I don't lend books, I give them away. I rarely keep a book once I've read it. My book club bring all their reads to the group and people pick new books from the pile. The ones that don't get picked go to the charity shop.

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    1. Hmmm love this perspective & great tip! I think I'm a bit of a hoarder :-/ lol

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  6. I love that idea! I only have a few that I will reread, (my absolute favorites!), so that's a great idea for the ones I won't read again! :)

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  7. This is really funny. I actually don't have anyone that reads the same books as me to even lend my books out to, but I would imagine I'd be skeptical. Especially if its a book I love. I'm very particular. xD

    Molly @ Molly's Book Nook

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    1. Glad you enjoyed it! And I agree. Finding people who have the same taste can be a bit difficult at times

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  8. I rarely lend out books because the times I have lent them out, they came back all kinds of messed up or the person I lent it to lost the book. If I do lend out books, they have an allotted time and a certain condition it has to be returned, otherwise they owe me a new book or money.

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    1. Yessss to stipulations lol! I like that you have a system of accountability

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  9. I will stand on my head to recommend a favourite book to a friend. However, I absolutely hate lending books to pretty much anyone. These are my babies, you see and I can't let them get harmed or lost for that matter. I am so ridiculous about this that I rarely let friends know that I own certain books and lead them to the link at the library. lol

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    1. HAHA!!! Sneeeeaky but I completely get it lol

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  10. I lend out my books(usually to Wesley lol) and I regret it every time!!! From now on, I'm just going to allow people to order their own copy via my Amazon prime account.

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  11. I love that flow chart! It's a good one to go by!

    Personally, I would love to lend books out (to trusted friends only of course), if I had books. I live in a small flat in London, which isn't my home country (I'm from New Zealand), so I have an ereader and don't buy physical copies of books.

    The reason I would love to lend my books out (If I had any) is because I would love to spread my enthusiasm for books and reading. However most of my friends aren't interested in reading, and the ones that are, are interested in completely different genres and have no interest in what I read.

    When I own a house I want a library room where friends and family can borrow any of my books, provided they take care of them and return them in a timely manner. I think it would be so cool! I would probably have a little journal where they write their name, the book their borrowing and the date the borrow it, then the date it's returned, so I don't lose any books! :D

    Jordon @ Simply Adrift

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    1. so many spelling mistakes... They're* they*

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    2. Love your library room idea! Unfortunately I'm sure a lot of those books wouldn't make it back to the library. Nevertheless, I would still have a library for the very reason you mentioned to share and help develop a love for reading in others :)

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    3. Looooooove all of this Jordon! and a library in my future home is definitely the goal *heart eyes*
      : )

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  12. I don't lend out my books anymore. Not after a coworker returned one battered and dogeared when it left my home in perfect condition. Pissed me off something fierce.

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    1. What?!?! See and that's why I'm so stingy with my books
      smh sorry that happened to you Lekeisha

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  13. After being burned all throughout my life, the only person I lend books to now is my Mom. My first ever experience with this should have taught me. I was in Kindergarten and had bought a joke book from the book fair. I let this boy in my class borrow it. I didn't get it back until the end of the year, and when I got it, it was all bloated and yellow. Clearly he had left it in the rain or dropped it in water. I was so hurt about that.

    My cousins have dog eared my books, returned them in much worse condition than they got them, or never returned them at all. So lending books is really a no go with me now.

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    1. :-( sooo sorry about those experiences Jade. If my mom were interested in reading my type of books, she's probably be one of the few I lend to also lol

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  14. I only lend out my books now to trusted people who I know will read them and/or take care of them and return them at the end. I don't even know how many books I've lost to people before I realized that not everyone actually reads or enjoys books. Which is a strange idea to me, but I'm told I'm the strange one so FINE no book lending.
    P.S. Wesley sounds awesome.

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    1. As always, ditto to all of this. I've definitely lost count of books I've loaned that subsequently disappeared
      and lol! He's hilarious

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  15. I used to lend my books to people. But after one person actually managed to lose one of my books, that was it! She did buy me a new copy of the book, but it was the fourth in a series, and my new paperback didn't fit with all the others. Both the cover and the size was different. *sighs* I just couldn't go through that again.
    Lexxie @ (un)Conventional Bookviews

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  16. Ooh, I don't like to lend my books, so I understand your friend! :) If I'm recommending a book to someone, I'll just buy it for them, and make it a birthday or Christmas gift. Unfortunately I don't have a lot of IRL friends who are big readers though... maybe that is a good thing so I don't have to agonize over lending my books. :)

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  17. I'm very picky about lending out my books. I only lend to people I know will take care of it and will replace it in case something happens. I do have certain books that I refuse to lend to anyone though. Also, I will quit lending to someone if they start taking too long to give it back or anything like that. Lol!

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  18. That would be a big fat, NO! (lol) I lent out two (2) books that I never received back, and as a book junky, I had to go out and replace them. I'm the same way with DVDs, which I also collect. If I have duplicates, I don't mind loaning, but other than that, get your own! (lol) Hugs...RO

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