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When Life Hands You Lemons, Throw It Back & Demand Chocolate ;)



Heheh :) Well maybe not throw the lemons, but you catch my drift. Life hands us random things all of the time. It can be so frustrating when you've taken the time to actually plan something and then have to watch it all fall to bits. The worst feeling...gah! BUT I'm currently learning to make the most of every situation and seek a lesson in all circumstances.

This may seem like a random post, but I want this blog to be a place where I can grow WITH you guys...a place I can share my love of books as well as my love of life. This means taking the bad, the good, the better and the best in stride. Things happen that may change who you are and how you view things, but YOU get to choose what type of change you allow it to cause. 

As I get older, I realize that life is going to do what it does and I have 2 choices. I can either:




But WHY?!?!? This is so unfair!! I wanted the front row parking space! lol
OR





Granted, I realize that there are things that can't be glossed over with a bubble bath, but for the smaller things that we tend to BLOW UP... throw a bath bomb in that tub and chill out. 

Circumstances are going to take place and the only thing I can control in those situations is how I respond. 

As I look at my cards, I can either focus on the obnoxious wild cards in the mix OR I can take a second to shout out the Queens, Kings, Aces and Spades! (Did I even do that right? Y'all know what I'm trying to say lol) 

And I DO have some amazing cards in my deck currently. I have my amazing family, my friends, my faith and a job I love going to (if that's not a blessing, I don't know what is!). 

Are there a few cards I wish weren't in the stack? Sure. But in an effort not to stir the control freak in me, I'm ONLY giving energy to the things I can actually do something about. 


So how do I handle the cards I've been dealt? 

1. Be flexible! 
Half the things we allow to bother us aren't that serious. For me, sometimes, it's just a matter of things not going as planned that send my head spinning! lol Don't get me wrong, I like good surprises but other times, I appreciate structure. However, I realize that if I'm flexible I can never be bent out of shape ;-) 

2. Ditch the shoulda, coulda, woulda
Getting caught up in this can be discouraging because in some cases, it's futile. I can't count the times I've wasted replaying situations in my head only to be left frustrated knowing that what I should have done ISN'T reality. What happened is what happened and I can only move forward. 

3. Find the lesson in the situation
I may not be able to change how things happen but I can learn from how I respond. Those lessons teach me how I can better handle a similar situation in the future. AND it kind of helps me to cheat the shoulda, woulda, coulda blues. Now it becomes: I can, I will, I did ;-) 




What are your thoughts?
How do you deal with the unexpected?

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21 comments

  1. I love your attitude and I wish you the best in all your plans and new plans. ;)

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  2. I love this post, Jenn! I relate so much to all you’ve said. What if is a dangerous game, and I consciously try not to play it. When something not going as planned I tend to stress too. I like your point “Be flexible!” I need to remind myself about it more often.

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    1. Thanks Ksenia and I agree! "What If" land is the pits! Glad this was helpful :)

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  3. YAS. YAS. YAS. YAS. AND #YASSSSS! I lvoe this post! <3 And you shared this just at the right time I needed it! (funny how that happens, huh??) I agree with everything you've said! Especially the part about, how things the don't happen the way we WANT or EXPECTED them to, instead of freaking out about it, we need to EMBRACE it and learn to look on the good side when things turn out that way! <3 I couldn't agree more! I love how positive you are, love! Keep it up and never change!

    XOXOXOXOXO!!!

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    1. You just made my day!!!!!!!!!!! Sending a massive virtual hug your way! I'm so glad you enjoyed this! We have to encourage each other and ourselves. If we don't, who will, right?

      XOXOXO :)

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  4. So much has been happening to me, around me, and beyond me these days. I have taken a lot of time for myself to gather my thoughts, and try to keep my negative vibes from rubbing off on others. It's hard when everywhere I turn, someone expects certain things from me. It's depressing, but I'm trying to stay positive that It's not as bad as it seems. My song choice for my moments is Carrie Underwood's So Small. It really says a lor and I'm learning to take the good and bad of things and make the best of it. Great post!

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    1. Lekeisha! xoxo
      1) Thank you for being so transparent. Too many times we feel the need to fake the funk and act like all is well. I'm actually working on LETTING my friends be there for me. Letting them know when I'm not able to give and may actually need to be the one that is being given to. We all have our moments and shouldn't feel bad for that
      2) I don't think I know that song. Will be checking it out:)

      Thanks for always showing love

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  5. Great post, very wise and an attitude like this will bring you the most happiness in life :).

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  6. YES! I so agree with everything you've said here, Jenn! I love what you said and how you said it. I tend to be fairly laid back and go with the flow. I don't stress over every little thing or constantly wish for more/better/different. But I think we're often surrounded by people like that and it can be challenging. My sisters fall into this category and sometimes it's hard to feel like you're the lone voice of reason among the complainers and drama queens. Ha! Fact is - things happen. It's called Life. And it doesn't always go exactly the way you want or expect but you just have to roll with it the best you can. Adapt, accept, carry on. I just love that you posted this. Well said.

    Tanya @ Girl Plus Books

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    1. Hahaha! Agreed! Honestly, I can be a drama queen on occasion lol. But I'm realizing accepting that "things happen" just helps to take a load off and not trip on little things :)

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  7. Such a good reminder! That Chandler GIF is also perfection.. and a bath sounds like a wonderful idea! With chocolate, of course.

    I have the most difficulty ditching the "Shoulda, coulda, woulda." I am an expert at replaying scenes in my head 2349803 times, sometimes over years! It's not really dealing with it, but sometimes, to make myself feel better, I'll replay how it could have gone worse to remind myself that even though I'm not perfect, I am the imperfect me and it's okay because I could be worse. But then sometimes I imagine I have super powers and blast that mistake away with my amazing fire or earth bending! That usually helps too. ;)

    Detachment is my key to dealing with the unexpected. It's definitely not the best way, but it allows me to logically think through the situation and the outcomes and decide how to act that doesn't hurt anyone too badly. Actually, it's usually the worst when emotions are running high, but that's what I definitely need to be detached.

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    1. 1) "I am the imperfect me.." I love that! No one is perfect and we all handle things in different ways! I feel as long as we're open to continuing tot become better versions of ourselves then we win!
      2) we were obviously meant to be friends because I detach also lol I agree. It's NOT the best way to handle things. Some things need to be addressed head on so we can deal and properly move on.

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  8. I definitely think that having a positive outlook on things can become easier as we become more mature. My husband and I usually say that there aren't any problems in our house, there are only solutions. Sometimes, finding the right solution might take us a little time, but we always seem to manage.
    And a bubble bath and a good book, or listening to a favorite artist is a great way to let go of some stress and possible resentment.
    Great post, Jenn :)
    Lexxie @ (un)Conventional Bookviews

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    1. "there aren't any problems in our house, there are only solutions" Love this :) Shout out to you and your husband Lexxie! Being solutions oriented is so important. We can talk about problems all day but I personally don't want to get stuck there. I want to walk away from a conversation knowing how to move forward.
      Thanks for sharing your wisdom :)

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  9. This is such a good attitude to take to things! I need to work on thinking more like you do! It's so true that usually it's the tiniest things going wrong that are enough to bring us down.
    And 'should' is not a good word to use when we talk to ourselves, I think! It just makes us feel guilty instantly!
    Great post Jenn!

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    1. Thanks Annika! (btw I love your name! lol I've only met one other person with your name but I digress lol) I agree. Should can definitely get us down because there's nothing we can do about the past (most times) We can only try to move forward wiser and better :)

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  10. Great post! The older I get, the more I cut myself (and others) more slack. When I was younger I was much more judge-y. I'm a huge control freak too and as time passes I'm doing better at reining that in. Sometimes small things just don't matter that much. Sometimes you need to accept imperfection and move forward. (It's really hard, though!!)

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    1. I've heard many people say that you start to have a clearer perspective with age. I know there are things that shouldn't get to me and then I chat with an older man/woman and you see how nonchalantly they approach life! It's like they've realized, half of the stuff we fret about doesn't matter anyway! lol

      Thanks for sharing Jen :)

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  11. This makes perfect sense! I've actually kind of been thinking about these concepts lately. I just need to chill out and realize that life is always going to be tough, at least in some little way. I just can't let it get to me.
    -Amy

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