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Book Review: The Wait




Wait? Until marriage? Huh?! In a society fueled by sex, is this even possible anymore? And even if it is, do we want any part of it?

This book has caused quite the stir on social media and has come up in discussion with several of my friends. All the press it was getting caused me to take a look closer. Celibacy seems foolish and far stretched to many. And the news of an attractive couple being celibate in Hollywood always causes an uproar. I'll be honest... I had my reservations about reading this book. I think a lot of people have preconceived notions about this couple, BUT I chucked it all to the side and decided to give it a fair try.

So what is "The Wait?"

"The Wait is about taking control of your life. Reducing the dating drama and avoiding desperate dating choices so you can make better choices for your future."

The Wait is written from 2 perspectives: one being for those who have already chosen to be celibate and for those who have not seriously considered it. 

The couple does not shy away from attributing their decision for celibacy to their faith in God. Before you roll your eyes, I believe there are still great takeaways for those of alternative beliefs. This is NOT a "you're going to hell if you're sleeping with your man!" read.

It's about how withholding sex in a relationship helps you to get to know someone without the distraction of sex blurring your view. It's about seeing your worth in God's eyes so you don't need to gain it from another person.  It's about getting to know YOURSELF: your likes, dislikes, needs, wants and what you bring to the table. It's about getting to know one another's financial habits, problem solving skills, and more.

And let's be real, it also helps to weed out the men who may only want one thing.

The biggest push in this book is to get yourself together emotionally, spiritually, financially, etc. before you jump into a relationship that doesn't reflect your worth.

*cues "Doo Wop" Lauryn Hill* lol 


I love that DeVon and Meagan really encourage people to take the time to work on themselves before they rush into another relationship. They are very honest about the ways they got burned in past relationships or how they hurt others. Their decision of celibacy isn't painted as being easy but they boast of the reward being so much greater than the cost.

"I learned self-control and loved myself in a more meaningful way. If I could give God one of the hardest areas of life, anything else is possible." -Meagan Good 

Let's be real for a second. As humans, we crave relationship! However, the longest relationship any of us will have will be with ourselves. 

"...until you know and love yourself, it’s hard to find anyone else to love you the way you deserve. The practice of waiting—choosing to wait for sex and denying instant gratification so that you can see clearly, make better decisions, and position yourself for blessings—is the key to finding not just happiness but spirit-deep fulfillment. We live in a culture addicted to the quick hookup, the miracle cure, and the overnight sensation. The Wait is the remedy for that addiction." 
I don't suppose any visual best paints a picture of delayed gratification as much as this one! The marshmallow experiment is quite famous now and is referenced in "The Wait." Seriously, you've got to watch it. LOL! 


                                                  

Look at these kids fighting to have self control! It's adorably hilarious! 

Overall, I give this book 3.5 stars. There were a few grammatical errors that vexed me and some lingo that may turn some people off.  Also, I would have liked to hear from Meagan Good a bit more, but overall, its message was honestly and practically communicated :) 


To enter for a chance to win a copy of "The Wait" , follow the link below: 

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 Open to US residents. No PO boxes please. Ends 4/6. After being contacted, winner will have 48 hrs to respond. Good Luck! 


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15 comments

  1. Love love love this review Jen!!

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  2. I am looking forward to see Meagan's perspective (being a woman in the industry & what not) so I really want to give this book a read. Celibacy is still an really hard concept for me to grasp, even when I consider my faith. It would be even harder to consider it with a Devon Franklin at my side lol

    Thanks for your Review !!

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    1. Lol! Especially with a Devon Franklin by your side hahah
      xoxo

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  3. I haven't read the book but I'd love to. I like what you said about this book not just being for Christians even though it's written by believers of Christ. We can't expect the world to have biblical principals but we can invite them into deeper understanding of God as they see us living what we preach. I stand with Megan about Discipline (good stewardship) in this one area can definitely lead to endless possibilities of God trusting you as ruler over much more.

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    1. Agreed! There are so many biblical principles that may not be directly cited to the bible that many people abide by. I felt this read was practical for anyone trying to reassess their dating life and how they may be going about things :)

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  4. What a great review, I never considered reading it until after your review. There are many books on celibacy but interested to hear their take on it. I love the way Meagan and Devon are using their platform!

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  5. Your review has peeked my interest! As someone who has been a serial dater in the past and who is currently taking a break from dating (for several reasons), I'm interested in hearing DeVon's and Meagan's stories.

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  6. Your review makes me want to check it out!!

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  7. I love Meghan Good, but I don't really keep up with what's going on with her. I do want to read this book, and I don't think there's anything wrong with the way that they chose to go into their relationship. I know there are a lot of couples wishing that they had done things differently in the beginning. I'm not saying that this couple is perfect, but it seems like they are doing well. Then again, we don't really know what goes on behind closed doors. Great review, and it's giving me something to think about.

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    1. It definitely gives a different perspective on how to do relationships. I can speak from personal experience on how practicing a lot of the principles mentioned in this book proved beneficial :) If you check it out, let me know!

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  8. Congrats to Jonna on winning the giveaway!!! :-D

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  9. I haven't heard of this until now. Great review!

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  10. Great review! I'm halfway done with The Wait and have lost my desire to keep reading. I am not sure what I expected, but it wasn't what I got. I love their YouTube videos a lot, so maybe the problem with the book for me is the language used. Thanks for sharing!

    Jas | www.jasminediane.com

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